'Success is not the result of spontaneous combustion. You
must set yourself on fire.' Reggie Leach
What will keep me on going (motivation)
Motivation is described as the
process of arousing and sustaining goal-oriented behaviours. Motivation creates
your power of change, builds your self-esteem and capability and could manage
your development and helping others with yours.
There are few popular (but not
universally accepted) motivation theories which based on them some therapists,
organization-sport counselors, NLP practitioners ,... have made their own
motivational techniques. Like the self-awareness techniques I also recommend to
find and apply the one that fits you the most but again do not stick to it as
the only one. Here I just want to review
the subject from another perspective which may be compatible to most of them
and could be universally applicable.
Self-motivation is a combination
of different skills to initiate the process of transformation and to maintain
the energy through the process of change. This includes risk taking, modelling,
visualization, time management, challenging limiting beliefs, feeling
purposeful,...
By going back to the previous
vital questions, we can now define the
relationship between the four answers and see the difference in conscious and unconscious
(auto-pilot) modes:
When we are not fully aware of
what we really 'need' and what exactly we 'want', some pre-defined goals will
be setup and our automatic behavioral patterns, belief system and habits make
decision on how to move toward them. Since our power of intention plays an
important role for 'feeling purposeful' (as a key motivator), in unconscious
mode the intentions may be mixed up or
lost by the internal/external causes such as fears, failures,
social forces,... That's when we lose our courage and energy to finish the job.
The unclear/unknown intentions are not capable to maintain enough power for
motivation, and therefore the goals may not be fully satisfactory be achieved.
On the other hand, at the conscious
mode we are capable to clearly set and choose our goals and intentions + be
able to freely monitor our motivational
strategies and emotions rather than become the victim of the outer causes and
situations.
Let me share with you an
interesting experience I had last week with one of my friends. He is a university
prof, who had planned to quit his job
and to start his own business for the first time (which of course would be a great
stretch out of his comfort zone). He had very hard time during last two weeks
and he got so mind full (instead of mindful!), he suddenly decided to stop the ongoing project
of his own future business + quit the
university and go to work at a coffee shop. When I was trying to ask (or may be
push) him to re-look what he was going into,
the reaction was: 'I don't need a life coaching, I only need money. I know my
pattern, which I born with. But what can I do? That's who I am!'.
He was totally right! From his
current point of view, he's just a victim of his genes, socio-economical
environment, stupid boss at his workplace,... I've doubt even he believes that
he deserves the money he's looking for.
"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and
expecting different results." (may
be by Albert Einstein)
And the repeated lesson for me was:
We are unable to PUSH anyone to change.
We could just make of your own free will changes, which could motivate the
people around us to change!
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